A special note from our founder
After my second diagnosis with cancer, right when I felt like life pulled the carpet out from underneath me, I hit bottom. But one day about a week later, in my head, I thought, “You have done this before, you can do this again. You are one tough bitch. Get it together!”
The thought jolted me – it is not the kind of thing I would normally think, but it gave me the push I needed. Something about those words seemed to shout to my core and wake something up inside of me. So I made myself a necklace to remind me “You can do this.” Sometimes, I reach for it, and somehow, it helps me. It’s like my own force field, invisible to the outside world, yet protecting me.
Cancer really changes you. It super-sizes the unknown, our mortality, the question mark that hangs over us. If we only “knew” we would be okay. That’s the same question mark for finding someone new, being able to have a child, getting over the emotional pain, or overcoming life’s hurdles. If we knew we would be ok, then we would be able to more easily handle the path put in front of us.
But that’s not life. No one has guarantees.
So much of what we experience as women takes strength, and we sometimes manage by limping through to the other side. We should pause to feel the success of getting through the challenge. Celebrate that we were able to put one foot in front of the other, even if the tank was on empty.
People tell me I appear strong and calm on the outside. Believe me under the surface, there are many moments when my feet are paddling hard like a duck. For me, I find my strength by appearing strong. Fake it till you make it, right?
The “I made it through ______ but now what?” feels just as hard. But while it’s tough, time goes on and life happens. And as it happens somehow we move forward. Sometimes without even knowing how we did it. It just takes time.
But learning you can depend on yourself is a powerful tool. It is a lesson life can never take from us.